{"id":607,"date":"2021-11-17T04:01:00","date_gmt":"2021-11-17T04:01:00","guid":{"rendered":""},"modified":"2023-09-05T13:48:44","modified_gmt":"2023-09-05T05:48:44","slug":"developing-a-healthy-relationship-with-food","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/magazine.circledna.com\/developing-a-healthy-relationship-with-food\/","title":{"rendered":"Developing A Healthy Relationship With Food: The Basics"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Developing a healthy relationship with food can be life-changing, especially when it comes to your health. Disordered eating is incredibly common, but developing a healthy relationship with food doesn\u2019t have to be a challenging or far-fetched goal.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, most people don\u2019t have the right mindful connection with their nutrition. When you\u2019re firstborn, your relationship with food is at its most organic stage. You eat what\u2019s available to you when you\u2019re hungry and seek out the specific sources of nutrition your body craves.<\/p>\n<p>As a child, you don\u2019t worry about how many calories are on your plate, or whether your dinner is<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/high-cholesterol-foods-to-avoid\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> high in cholesterol<\/a>. As you get older, you learn more about nutrition, which foods are good for you, and which foods you should try to avoid. From one perspective, this food-related education is a good thing. It means you can make better decisions tailored towards your health.<\/p>\n<p>Your knowledge of which foods are \u201cbad\u201d for you, however, can also lead to unhealthy feelings of guilt, shame, and panic when you eat. These are the feelings that sometimes give way to eating disorders.<\/p>\n<p>On top of that, many people don\u2019t eat mindfully, and rather eat mindlessly when they\u2019re bored at home. This is not a good relationship with food to have, especially if you\u2019re in the habit of <a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-late-night-snacking\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mindless late-night snacking<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>So, how do you go about developing a healthy relationship with food?<\/p>\n<figure class=\"kg-card kg-image-card\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/1640777\/pexels-photo-1640777.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;dpr=1&amp;w=500\" class=\"kg-image\" alt=\"circlemagazine-circledna-developing-a-healthy-relationship-with-food\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"697\" height=\"464\"><\/figure>\n<h2 id=\"defining-your-relationship-with-food\"><strong>Defining Your Relationship with Food<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Before you can develop a positive relationship with food, you need to know where you currently stand. Notably, a good relationship with food has nothing to do with the quality of your diet, or how many calories you eat. Rather, it\u2019s all about how and why you choose to eat certain foods.<\/p>\n<p>If your decisions on what to eat are driven by feelings of guilt, obsession, and other negative emotions, this indicates a<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/www.self.com\/story\/normal-relationship-with-food\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> poor relationship with food<\/a>. Below are some of the symptoms of an unhealthy relationship with food, to help you diagnose the issue:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>You feel guilty about eating certain foods<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>You avoid or restrict certain foods obsessively<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Having specific rules about the food you can and can\u2019t eat (not determined by health conditions like<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/food-allergies-vs-food-sensitivities\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> allergies and intolerances<\/a>)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Heavily relying on apps or calorie counting to tell you when to stop eating<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Ignoring the natural hunger cues of your body<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>You\u2019re frequently getting involved with diet fads<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>You feel significant stress and anxiety eating in social settings<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Binge-eating certain foods to the point of being way too full and uncomfortable<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Mindlessly eating in front of the TV or while bored, even if you\u2019re not hungry<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>An inability to control or monitor portions<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It\u2019s also worth noting that your relationship with food can be transient. Some people eat with complete freedom sometimes, then feel restricted in what they can eat later. The goal of developing a healthy relationship with food is to have more positive experiences with what you eat.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"what-is-a-healthy-relationship-with-food\"><strong>What is a Healthy Relationship with Food?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/www.nationaleatingdisorders.org\/blog\/how-have-healthy-relationship-food\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> National Eating Disorders Association<\/a> defines a healthy relationship with food as \u201crelaxed eating\u201d. You should feel entirely comfortable and not driven by any specific emotion in your decisions of what to eat. You should also eat mindfully.<\/p>\n<p>Although it\u2019s considered healthy to be aware of<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/best-anti-aging-foods\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> which foods are good for you<\/a> and which aren\u2019t, a healthy relationship with food recognizes there\u2019s more to eating than just eating for fuel. Unlike animals eating solely for survival, human beings eat for pleasure, socialisation, tradition, and fun.<\/p>\n<p>Signs that you\u2019re developing a healthy relationship with food include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Giving yourself permission to eat foods you enjoy<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Listening to and respecting your body\u2019s hunger cues<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Eating when you\u2019re hungry and stopping when you\u2019re full<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Not placing unnecessary restrictions on what you can eat<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Not allowing the opinions of others to dictate what you eat<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Not counting calories or stressing over your weight<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Eating foods in moderation (the right amount at the right time)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Understanding you\u2019re not defined by the foods you eat<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Choosing foods that make you feel good<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Keep in mind, for many of us, our relationship with food is significantly influenced by societal expectations. A growing pressure to be \u201cthin\u201d and eat healthy foods at all times can be difficult to ignore. The world we live in means it\u2019s not easy to simply stop worrying about what you eat. Building a good relationship with food takes time.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"how-to-build-a-healthier-relationship-with-food\"><strong>How to Build a Healthier Relationship with Food<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>If, after reading the symptoms above, you\u2019ve decided you don\u2019t have the best relationship with food, don\u2019t panic. You can start to build a better connection with your nutrition.<\/p>\n<p>Start by finding out which foods you actually have to restrict in your diet for legitimate health purposes. You can do this by using blood tests, allergy tests and <a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;http:\/\/circledna.com\&quot;" rel=\"noopener\">DNA tests<\/a> to determine which foods you\u2019re genetically sensitive to. A CircleDNA test will help you to understand more about your food intolerances.<\/p>\n<p>After you know what you can and can\u2019t eat:<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"1-give-yourself-unconditional-permission-to-eat\"><strong>1. Give yourself unconditional permission to eat<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>This might sound simple, but most of us place a lot of conditions on being allowed to eat. If you\u2019re trying to lose weight, you might tell yourself you<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/is-chocolate-a-health-food-eating-chocolate-the-right-way\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> can\u2019t eat any foods<\/a> which might influence your waistline. Or you might decide you can only eat a small portion of a certain meal.<\/p>\n<p>Creating rules around when you can and can\u2019t eat sets yourself up for hunger, fear of food, and feelings of deprivation. Ultimately, having a few extra cookies for dessert may be better than being too afraid to open the cookie jar.<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"2-eat-when-you-re-hungry\"><strong>2 Eat when you\u2019re hungry<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>You are born with the natural ability to regulate your hunger. Children can easily tell when they\u2019re full or hungry, but as adults, we tend to ignore our hunger pangs and focus on other stimuli instead. For instance, you might decide you\u2019re \u201cfull\u201d because<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC3698025\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> your plate is empty<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>On top of this, diet culture tells us we need to stick to a specific number of calories when eating each day, rather than just eating until we\u2019re satisfied. The more you listen to your actual hunger cues, the easier it is to regulate your diet and appetite.<\/p>\n<h3 id=\"3-try-mindful-eating\"><strong>3.<\/strong> <strong>Try mindful eating<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Mindful eating is perhaps the most important part of fixing a<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5556586\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> bad relationship with food<\/a>. These days, many of us eat distracted, watching a show or checking our phones. This makes it harder to recognise the hunger and fullness cues we already have a hard time pinpointing.<\/p>\n<p>Eating mindfully means eliminating distractions and focusing just on your food. You notice the taste and texture of the food, savour each bite and allow your body to tell you when you\u2019re full. Eating mindfully helps you to identify the reasons for your food choices too. For instance, are you eating because you\u2019re actually hungry, or just because you\u2019re bored?<\/p>\n<p>When eating, ask yourself:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What flavours am I noticing right now, and do I enjoy them?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>How is this food changing my appetite?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Does this food satisfy any cravings I had?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>Was I actually hungry when I decided to eat this?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Is it possible that I\u2019m eating for a different reason other than hunger<\/strong>, such as loneliness, boredom or stress?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>What made me choose to eat this?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3 id=\"4-explore-all-kinds-of-foods\"><strong>4.<\/strong> <strong>Explore all kinds of foods<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Over time, we gradually get into the habit of describing some foods as \u201cbad\u201d and others are \u201cgood\u201d. While some foods are definitely more nutritious, eating a \u201cbad\u201d food from time to time isn\u2019t necessarily going to cause<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/circledna.com\/blog\/how-to-stop-late-night-snacking\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> serious problems with your health<\/a>, unless you have an allergy.<\/p>\n<p>One of the worst things about labelling foods as \u201cbad\u201d, is you often crave them more. The more you tell yourself you can\u2019t have a certain food, the more you want it. One study tested this phenomenon by putting a group of dieters and non-dieters into private rooms where they could eat as many cookies as they wanted. The<a target=\"_new0.013607946237184058\" href="\&quot;https:\/\/pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/22750852\/\&quot;" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> non-dieters were more likely<\/a> to regulate their intake.<\/p>\n<p>When you allow all foods into your diet, you\u2019re less likely to binge or overeat when given a chance to \u201cbreak the rules\u201d. When you put all foods into the \u201cokay\u201d list on your diet, you\u2019re also less likely to constantly want cookies and cake.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"kg-card kg-image-card\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/566566\/pexels-photo-566566.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;dpr=1&amp;w=500\" class=\"kg-image\" alt=\"circlemagazine-circledna-developing-a-healthy-relationship-with-food\" loading=\"lazy\" width=\"653\" height=\"435\"><\/figure>\n<h3 id=\"5-don-t-justify-what-you-eat\"><strong>5.<\/strong> <strong>Don\u2019t justify what you eat<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Allowing yourself to eat anything also means you don\u2019t have to justify what you decide to eat to anyone \u2013 even yourself. There\u2019s no reason to tell someone you\u2019re sitting with that you ordered a burger instead of a salad because you had a bad day. You also don\u2019t have to explain having a salad for dinner because you feel like something fresh.<\/p>\n<p>Just allow yourself to eat the food you feel is best for you in the moment.<\/p>\n<p>Many of us assume the people around us are constantly examining our choices and judging them. However, the reality is that most people probably don\u2019t notice, mind, or care what you\u2019re eating. They\u2019re too busy worrying about their own life to consider what\u2019s going on in yours.<\/p>\n<h2 id=\"developing-a-healthy-relationship-with-food-over-time\"><strong>Developing a Healthy Relationship With Food Over Time<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>A person\u2019s relationship with food can be a complex battle. Some people have a harder time overcoming bad habits and disordered eating compared to others. If this is the case for you, you might struggle to develop a healthy relationship with food on your own.<\/p>\n<p>If you can\u2019t stop obsessing over what you eat, you can\u2019t stop mindlessly overeating, or you\u2019re worried that your relationship with food is making you unhealthy, speak to a professional. There are doctors, dietitians, therapists, and other healthcare providers who can help you to understand your history with food, and guide you towards a better future. Some therapists specialize in disordered eating and can offer you a wealth of information.<\/p>\n<p>Above all else, remember, all good relationships take practise to master, so keep working on it and don\u2019t give up trying.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Developing a healthy relationship with food can be life-changing, especially when it comes to your health. 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